Friday, 24 January 2014

Jan 18th 2014: Murphy's Bar Mitzvah

Hi, I'm back again to write about this week's episode of Vinyl cafe. This week's episode is an hour long, which I guess is the norm for this show? It's a bit daunting to review this one, but I'll give it a try.

This episode opens with Stuart in front of a live studio audience in Vancouver. The end of the program reveals that he'll be touring with live shows across several Canadian towns over the next few months, which I am totally cool with, because the audience's laughter and applause feel like a good fit for this show, and I think it would lose a bit of its charm without them.

I'm not sure if this is the normal format of the show, but this episode opens with Stuart telling an anecdote about himself on his last trip to Vancouver (only half of this episode focuses on Dave & co. Again, this may or may not be the norm for this show).

Stuart begins by saying how much he likes Vancouver grocery stores (again with grocery stores! That's three episodes in a row!) but segues quickly into a loving description of his three favourite Vancouver restaurants: a Sushi place, a German bakery, and an Indian restaurant, all founded by immigrants or the children of immigrants.

I don't need to follow the canned synopsis/moral format of my previous review to break down this story, because Stuart helpfully states the moral of the story at the end: this country is made richer by its inclusiveness towards immigrants, like a many-folded croissant (his analogy, not mine). It's the kind of feel-good message I expect from this show. Stuart describes the owners and atmospheres of these restaurants with loving detail, which really helps to get the message across. It helps to establish a warm, friendly tone at the beginning of the episode.

Unfortunately, this tone only lasts past the musical interlude that immediately follows this story(with musical guest Veda Hille). It stops once we reach the vinyl cafe story exchange, where listeners can send in their true stories to be selectively read by Stuart on the show.

This week's story concerns a woman riding the Skytrain (Vancouver public transit). She describes it as a scene familiar to anyone who has taken public transportation: strangers sitting and standing in silence, doing their best to ignore one other. This silence stops when an older gentleman requests that a young man remove a knapsack from a seat so that he can sit down. He is met not with courtesy, but insults and foul language. The other passengers are stunned, and do nothing, until a third man demands that the younger man apologize. When this is also met with derision, he activates the train intercom and requests that security arrest this young man because he "threatened another rider". "Also" he adds, "he's ugly". This prompts the young man to leave the train at the next stop. The other riders are relieved and begin exchanging knowing glances with each other, bonding over this experience. Another woman tells the third man that there is a button that can be pushed to summon transit police, which can be used instead of the intercom. "I know", the third man replies, "I wanted to humiliate him".

Sorry for the long description of an otherwise brief portion of the show, but I really didn't like this story! It felt tonally dissonant following Stuart's anecdote about the importance of being accepting towards everyone. Now, let me start by saying that the young man's behaviour in this story was unacceptable. This does not give the other man in this story carte blanche to insult him! And all of the passengers on the train are happy that this reprisal took place and they all bond over their collective schadenfreude!? The message of this story is like a twisted version of the message of Stuart's restaurant tale: strangers can be brought closer together through the collective enjoyment of a deserved public humiliation.

Well, I disagree with that message! Responding to bullies with bullying never solves anything! If someone on a train is threatening someone, just push the emergency button, there's no need to throw insults at the person causing trouble. In fact, it could escalate things and make the situation worse! The woman who submitted this story adds at the end that that young man will think twice before refusing his seat on the Skytrain again (paraphrase). No, he won't, because the insult he received from the third man and the collective silent acceptance of this by the rest of the passengers will only further embitter him to his fellow passengers in the future, and that's assuming this incident doesn't dissuade him from ever taking the train again.

What happened, Vinyl Cafe? Why did you completely flip the tone of this program from light-hearted to mean in five minutes flat? I thought this was supposed to be a feel-good program. I tried to stay positive anyway, since a Dave story was coming up after another musical interlude(an aside: I'm going to avoid commenting on the musical parts of this show too much because I don't feel qualified to analyze music, but suffice to say the music from this week's episode was good. It was Veda Hille again).

Anyway, the last half of the episode featured another Dave story. Did it help fix the show after the tonal dissonance of the previous two segments? Sorta.

I won't go into a lot of detail about this story, but it's another "Dave does something silly" story that I mostly enjoyed. Murphy (A friend of Dave's teenage son, Sam) is having a Bar Mitzvah, and Dave mishears a phone call inviting him to the event, so he assumes that he needs to dress as a rabbit for the after-party, instead of a Rabbi. So Dave attends with his son in full costume (the costume is blue for some reason, a funny detail for which no explanation is given), and of course his son is extremely embarrassed. Dave also has to pee while at the synagogue, and naturally he can't unzip the costume and ends up freaking a kid out in the bathroom, and it's all as funny as you would expect, up to and including when the Rabbi himself enters the bathroom, sees Dave, and momentarily believes that he's hallucinating.

Unfortunately, it's at this point that the story goes off the rails a bit. You see, the Rabbi is being pressured by the Cantor to retire, but it's in the Cantor's own interest that this happens since the Rabbi will be replaced by a relative. However, with Dave's help the Rabbi is able to trick the Cantor into believing that he is hallucinating and seeing a giant blue rabbit that isn't there, during the ceremony, in front of everyone. The Cantor doesn't attend the after-party and everyone there learns of the prank and they all have a good laugh, and Dave takes a bow.

Normally I would consider this ending fairly harmless fun, but following the previous Skytrain story, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth. In this story, Dave & co. humiliate a bully in public then laugh about it afterward. That's a bit mean-spirited, Dave.

Maybe I'm just too sensitive, but please, fictional & non-fictional people in these stories, try to be a bit more understanding of mean people. Treating intolerance with intolerance should not be the first resort when it comes to dealing with unruly people.


I know I'm sounding a bit harsh, but I did mostly like this episode. Stuart's story was good, Dave's story was mostly good and had some touching father-son bonding moments. But there were some mixed messages that put me off a bit. Hopefully this is not something that frequently occurs on this program.

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